As your local matchmaking experts serving the wider community, we’ve had the privilege of guiding countless singles on their journey to finding love. We’ve seen what works, what doesn’t, and everything in between. So, whether you’re just dipping your toes back into the dating pool or looking to refine your approach, here are some essential Dating Tips for Singles to help you navigate the often-exciting, sometimes nerve-wracking, world of finding that special someone.
The “Dos” of Dating
Do Be Authentic
Honesty is truly the best policy, especially when it comes to dating. Be yourself – your quirks, your passions, your genuine self. Don’t try to be someone you think the other person wants you to be. Authenticity builds trust and allows for a real connection to form. If they don’t appreciate the real you, they’re not the right person for you.
Do Be Present and Engaged
When you’re on a date, give your full attention to the person in front of you. Put away your phone (unless it’s for a quick photo of a delicious meal you’re sharing!), make eye contact, and actively listen to what they have to say. Show genuine interest in their thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Being present demonstrates respect and makes your date feel valued.
Do Be Positive and Enthusiastic
A positive attitude is contagious! Approach dating with optimism and enthusiasm. While it’s natural to have anxieties, try to focus on the potential for connection and enjoyment. A cheerful vibe makes you more approachable and enjoyable to be around.
Do Be Respectful and Considerate
This should go without saying, but treat your date with respect and consideration. Be punctual, polite to waitstaff, and mindful of their opinions and boundaries. Good manners go a long way in making a positive impression.
Do Ask Open-Ended Questions
Instead of questions that can be answered with a simple “yes” or “no,” ask open-ended questions that encourage your date to elaborate and share more about themselves. This helps to keep the conversation flowing and allows you to learn more about their personality and values.
Do Be a Good Listener
Dating is a two-way street. While it’s important to share about yourself, make sure you’re also actively listening to your date. Pay attention to their body language, ask follow-up questions, and show that you’re genuinely interested in what they’re saying.
Guys – Do Follow Up Appropriately
If you enjoyed the date and feel a connection, reach out and let her know. A simple text or call expressing that you had a good time and would like to see her again. Don’t play games or wait an unnecessarily long time. Lead the way; and ask her for a 2nd date!
(Ladies, don’t call him – that’s masculine behaviour! …instead, let men lead!)
The “Don’ts” of Dating
Don’t Be Late (Without Good Reason)
Being late for a date sends a message that you don’t value the other person’s time. If unforeseen circumstances cause a delay, communicate as soon as possible and apologise sincerely.
Don’t Talk Excessively About Yourself
While it’s important to share about your life, avoid dominating the conversation. Dating is about getting to know each other, so make sure you’re giving your date equal opportunity to speak!
Don’t Badmouth Exes
Bringing up past relationships in a negative light can be a major turn-off. It can make you seem bitter or like you haven’t moved on. Of course be honest, however keep the sharing brief; focus on the present and the potential for a new connection.
Don’t Be Negative or Complain Constantly
No one enjoys spending time with someone who is constantly complaining or focusing on the negative aspects of life. Keep the conversation light and positive.
Don’t Be Distracted by Your Phone
As mentioned earlier, your phone needs to take a backseat during a date! Checking messages or social media signals is simply rudeness. Don’t do it.
Don’t Interrogate Your Date
While it’s natural to ask questions, avoid turning the date into an interrogation. Keep the conversation flowing naturally and allow information to unfold organically.
Don’t Make Assumptions
Avoid making assumptions about your date’s intentions, beliefs, or background. Get to know them as an individual and allow them to share their own story.
Don’t Be Afraid to Be Yourself
While we encouraged you to “do be authentic,” the “don’t” here is about trying too hard to fit a mould or be someone you’re not because you’re worried about judgment. True connection comes from embracing your individuality. Be yourself.
By keeping these dating dos and don’ts in mind, you’ll be well-equipped to navigate the dating landscape and beyond with greater confidence and increase your chances of building meaningful
connections. Remember, dating should be an enjoyable journey, so relax, be yourself, and have fun! If you’re looking for a more tailored and guided approach to finding love, the team at Two’s Company is always here to help.
